self love

Give future you some love

Give future you some love

There’s a tension between living in the moment AND looking after your future self.

I was the Queen of using “living in the moment” as an excuse for bad behaviour. The worst offender being heavy drinking. I mean, why worry about how I feel tomorrow? Let’s just enjoy today. Life is short and all that.

Here’s my excuse. Nine years ago, I went through breast cancer (the full monte kind). After starring into the face of my mortality, I decided what the heck. I mean - who know’s what the future will bring - so I’m a gonna have a good time.

What's your definition of success?

What's your definition of success?

What is your definition of success? It occurred to me recently that for me, winning and success go hand in hand. I’ve been driven by a desire to win for as long as I can remember. Embarrassingly, my memory even features scenes of me crying after coming second in a swim club race. Not lying. #cringefactormassive

That was a long time ago, but the belief system remains. If I’m not winning, then I consider myself not only unsuccessful, but I will even go as far as to tell myself I’m failing. This I can report, is a sure fire way of creating a hard wired damaging self talk pattern. For me it’s led to a lack of self worth and sometimes even a little self loathing.