Healing

What is, is what matters most….

What is, is what matters most….

Do you sometimes find yourself in your head thinking about what might happen in the future? 

When I was in the thick of breast cancer treatment, I had a realisation. No amount of worrying about whether (or not) I would survive would change the outcome. That if I invested my precious time into worry, my now would suffer.

Gratitude turns what we have into ENOUGH

Two of my favourite things - Byron Bay & Sunset

Two of my favourite things - Byron Bay & Sunset

Do you ever wake up and feel doomed to have a bad day? Maybe it starts with too many ‘snoozes’, so you’re running late. Then it’s raining and as you run for the bus you splash mud on your pants. You miss the (expletive) bus and feel it in your bones. Today sucks. It’s going to be awful and you might as well accept the fact.

Except then it dawns on you that it’s Friday. OMG, it’s Friday! Who cares if you have mud on your pants and you arrive a little late. Everyone knows that happens in wet weather. Plus it’s FRIDAY!!

Hang on, what just happened? Nothing happened. I mean the facts remained the same. You still have mud on your pants, are late for work, and are waiting for another bus. Yet everything happened. You changed your mindset.

MINDSET IS EVERYTHING

You can go from having a bad day, to a good one almost regardless of the circumstances. You get to choose your thoughts (see you just did, reminder it’s FRIYAY!). Your thoughts lead to your feelings (woop). You are in the command seat of your mood.

Today started off pretty frustrating in my world. It rained so hard all night (in Sydney) that I had a crappy sleep. It was noisy! My running ‘date’ this morning was cancelled. I was relieved and instead of going to yoga, I curled up on the couch with my dog. My mood went down hill as I considered the day ahead. Too many balls in the air. Not enough time. Overwhelm.

Well screw that!

Every moment is an opportunity to choose better. To think, feel and act from a place of our highest good. I don’t have to stay in a crappy mood today and neither do you. Here’s what life has taught me is the absolute best way from woe to woohoo.

GRATITUDE turns what we have into enough

Next time you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, here’s my advice for breaking the cycle. Take out a note pad (I mean journal!) and write a list of all the things you have to be grateful for. Begin this process by focussing on the people in your life, that you love whole heartedly. From there it’s an easier step to getting you clear on the realities at play.

Today I’m grateful for my beautiful family who love me unconditionally. For my friends, old and new who are my greatest cheerleaders. I’m also grateful that I have a bed. A friend who shared my don’t wanna get out of vibes today. A gorgeous puppy for cuddles. A business that I’m building block by block that brings me fulfilment, that’s fun and serves others. That I have so many balls in the air!

Next stop is my meditation cushion to reset my entire nervous system for the day.

What are you grateful for?

What's your definition of success?

What's your definition of success?

What is your definition of success? It occurred to me recently that for me, winning and success go hand in hand. I’ve been driven by a desire to win for as long as I can remember. Embarrassingly, my memory even features scenes of me crying after coming second in a swim club race. Not lying. #cringefactormassive

That was a long time ago, but the belief system remains. If I’m not winning, then I consider myself not only unsuccessful, but I will even go as far as to tell myself I’m failing. This I can report, is a sure fire way of creating a hard wired damaging self talk pattern. For me it’s led to a lack of self worth and sometimes even a little self loathing.

The curiosity of living with less

The curiosity of living with less

Before I jump in to this, can I just say, I recognise that I (and very likely you) live a life of privilege. I haven’t spent much time considering this in the past. I’m glad that’s evolving. Forgive me if my experiences comes across as self indulgent, I’m sharing knowing that they are.

In December 2018, when I left my corporate role, I had enough money to last me a little while, without having to “worry”. That being said, as any entrepreneur will likely agree, there’s a certain amount of insecurity that presents itself the day you turn off a rather comfortable, regular income.

Want to know why I'm proud to work in Network Marketing?

Want to know why I'm proud to work in Network Marketing?

Two years ago, I could never have guessed, I would be sitting here writing a blog piece in support of Network Marketing. My personal opinion was steer clear of it, it’s a pyramid scheme. Of course I knew very little about the field. Although I did try and fly a non existent plane once. Boy that was an expensive night!

Have you ever thought about taking a break from drinking?

Have you ever thought about taking a break from drinking?

Typically, I start each new year with a head ache, foggy brain and dry mouth. The routine mindset - today I’m going to feel average (to poor!) and I just have to get through it. I busy myself filling in any blanks from the night prior. As the day progresses, I indulge in comfort eating, pain killers, and swear off binge drinking. Then as the sun sets, I’m reminded that a little glass of wine will certainly take the edge off and help me sleep better. Preferably red wine.

The second of January? Well that’s a better day, that’s a day when I can get my head around a few New Years resolutions and maybe even take myself for a swim. Nothing too strenuous mind you, I’ve still got recovery to be doing. That being said, January in Australia (or on the Nth American snow fields) is most often a month of play. That holiday feeling lingers, so we don’t want to go starting anything too healthy. Not just yet. Maybe, we think, just maybe, Febfast is a good idea?

The path to 'lit up & liberated'

The path to 'lit up & liberated'

As I sit here typing, it’s December the 29th 2018. Which makes it about 9 days since I walked out of my Corporate MD (of an advertising agency) role into the great unknown. Actually, that’s a stretch, I do know where I’m headed to, even if the directions are a little less clear!

The destination, isn’t actually a place, instead it’s a feeling. More specifically, it’s the way that I want to feel on a day to day basis. It’s both ambitious and yet, it’s achievable. If not all day every day, then at least a whole lot more than we’re led to believe.

This quest of mine, began a little over eight years ago. A cancer diagnosis is terrifying, gut wrenching and debilitating. I went through every bit of ugly and I can promise you, it’s best avoided. It left me with one positive thing though. A realisation that I wanted more from my life. Not more money or things, but more meaning and more joy. To be able to look back whenever my time comes, with a sense of accomplishment and pride.

The overwhelming emotion of following your heart

The overwhelming emotion of following your heart

I cried again today. Happy tears. Lately, this welling of the eyes has become a regular occurrence. I’m pretty confident it means, I’m on the right track.

I’m just a week shy of leaving my 30 year long corporate career, to focus on my passion for health and wellness (via my doTERRA business). As my business develops, I’m regularly having aha moments, that remind me of why this “risk” is so worth taking. Moments that make my heart explode and my eyes water. Who knew work could feel like this?! These moments are typically, my team expanding into new levels of confidence and happiness. Empowering other women to new levels of success is kinda intoxicating, trust me.